10 Lessons for Women by Women: The risk of safety

"There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud
was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."  ~ Anais Nin

As girls and women, many of us have chosen to remain in our comfort zones.  Through the ages, the words “safety” and “security” have always been used by the majority of people to describe what they thought we needed (and when I say people, I’m not talking exclusively about men – even our mothers have used these words!).  It’s often not that we have been deprived of opportunities, but that we weren’t encouraged to step out of our comfort zones and do something.  The risk of stepping out conflicted sharply with the images of safety and security.  Even today, there are girls on the brink of adulthood deciding what career to enter into, and as I listen to them describing what they want to study and what work they want to do, I hear them say:  “It’s a good profession for a woman.”  Truthfully, that statement makes my skin crawl.  I want to shake them and say:  “What about your dream?  What is your passion?  Pursue that!!”  The definition of woman should not be “one who is limited by her anatomy”!

But my purpose here is not to berate society for their treatment of girls and women.  I said that many of us have chosen to remain in our comfort zones.  We are not victims – we are responsible for our lives and the choice is ours.  From a woman who believes in the power of being a woman, I hope that it does indeed become more painful for you to risk remaining “tight in the bud”.  Then you will choose to risk stepping out.  And because of this choice, you will blossom.  This is my prayer for every girl and woman worldwide.